First, as a Dalit girl is brave from above, ready to move forward, fight and fight, how can she embrace society? , How would society embrace a Dalit girl, then brave, ready to move forward, fight and fight?

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7 minutes agoAuthor: Meena

I am Dr. Poonam Tushamad. You all know me that way today, but the caste or community to which Poonam Tushamad belongs is seen with hatred and humiliation even in the 21st century. Even in the Dalit community, the caste to which I belong, which is called Valmiki, the childhood of the children of this caste is full of bitter experiences, can only be guessed by a person from Dalit society.

During a special conversation with Woman Bhaskar, Dr. Poonam Tushamad, a professor at Delhi University, while attacking the rotten thinking related to the caste of society and sharing the bad experiences of childhood, says that when he was little, he was very Very in reading and writing I was smart, but caste discrimination always stuck with me. All my friends or classmates who belonged to other castes also liked me, nor did they ever eat with me. Even though she was doing something and taking it to a contest at school, the teachers there didn’t even taste it.

few people became friends
I used to participate in competitions ranging from sports, song poetry, stories to dance, but even after all the praise, I used to keep the prize away from me. I would look tormented like a milkless fly. I would try to get everyone to respect me the same way, look at me with the same love, sit close and behave the same way others treat me, but why this hasn’t happened, I haven’t been able to understand it until today and maybe someone . I won’t even be able to understand, because no one imagines the pain I’ve been through. This is the reason why only a few people became friends with me.

Aunt refuses to say hello
As I went to school, when I greeted my aunt sweeping the road, she would take me to the corner of the road and explain to me- ‘Look daughter, don’t say hello to me in front of everyone. What would your friends say? At that moment, my childish mind did not understand the depth of my aunt’s talk. I just had a weird flash in my mind that why does my aunt refuse to greet me? When I grew up, I understood his point and felt disgust for society as well as repentance.

This is the question paper from Kurukshetra University, in which Poonam has been asked.

These incidents were happening in Delhi
All these incidents are not from any remote village, but from Delhi, the capital of the country. I was born in ‘Shakoor Basti’, a rehabilitation area of ​​Delhi. After the older brother in the house, we are four sisters. In front of our house lived an aunt who came from an elite class. She used to adore girls during Navratri, she would call everyone and she wouldn’t give me pudding or pudding on her plate. I should go instead with my plate. As a child I also asked him quickly, you and everyone else do not ask to bring the dish, why do you just tell me. I have never been to his house since. Later, the aunt went on to say out loud, “Girl ka rubab a dekho caste little rages bige.”

the father cleaned the utensils in the hotel
Mom wanted to fight, but Dad stopped. Dad was our model in the house. He never discriminated between brothers and sisters. We knew our father was very talented, a kabaddi player, wrestling and football player. Seeing his trophies, his hard-earned money would have filled our children’s chests with pride.

Dad is a chef in a big hotel. We knew this in the life of the pope, but after his death it was learned that he was not a chef in that great hotel, but by caste discrimination, and, in spite of passing until ten, he continued to do the work of cleaning utensils. at the hotel. which was called the hotel.In the Hindi language called Handyman. We don’t know how the father would feed our five brothers and sisters. But we never lack for anything. He didn’t even say his job was to wash the dishes, because he didn’t want my kids to lose pride in me.

He married after passing the 12th
When I passed the 12th of the same government school in Delhi, pressure was started to marry me at home. Meanwhile, I met Gulab (husband) at school. Gulab proposed marriage and my family members agreed after due diligence.

The struggles of a poor, Dalit and woman over him never end, perhaps that is why he did not lose heart even after all the hardships. Finished studies. He also took care of the marriage and the children.

the first child did not survive
I got married at 19 and had a baby girl at 20, but my in-laws were bound by the same stereotypes that the whole society believes. The birth was done at home, so I would have suffered when I lost my daughter’s life. My innocent little girl survived only four days and when my condition got worse, I was destined to go to the hospital.

The shock of losing a child in the first pregnancy seemed as if she could not recover for several days. When I was 21 I had a second daughter. Then I felt like my first daughter was back. While raising her daughter and caring for the home, her dreams receded for a while, but due to a desire to study, she enrolled in the Bachelor’s Degree at the University of Delhi with her husband.

When the director gave the promotion
During this time, her husband’s job was in Karnal. I walked into B.Ed and passed. I received admission to Karnal’s Women’s College itself. In college I lose two pounds every day. He was going to leave his daughter in a nursery at a distance of 2 km from there and then run away to college.

At that time she was also four months pregnant. In these conditions, seeing my principal traveling from kindergarten to college every day, he also asked for a lift, but I refused and said I had to travel like this every day. One day you will help. Director Mam understood my humble request and smiled.

Existence denied by caste
When he came to Delhi, he came here and did Jamia’s master’s degree and also passed the NET exam. He later applied for a doctorate. It was during this time that I had the opportunity to join the National Clean Movement, where I gained a deeper understanding of my rights. I started writing about Dalit women. Little by little I got lost even in those memories where my existence was denied because of my caste.

Whether it’s to do a PhD or to get a job in college, both are not readily available to me. Even in many places, no jobs were given in the SC category. I have always had to fight for my rights. Talking and conscious girls are not liked in society. These detractors tried to stop me a lot, but I didn’t stop either.

first book on scavengers
My first book was about Dalit women who had faced the weight of manual picking. While cleaning the sewer, his wife was trapped by the toxic gases. Those whose children could not attend school by caste and went through hardships, were expelled from school. The people at the school were afraid that the children of ‘civilized’ society would come here, if they sell manual scavengers like you, we would get into trouble.

Apart from these honors, Om Prakash Valmiki Samman-2020 has also been received.

Apart from these honors, Om Prakash Valmiki Samman-2020 has also been received.

My first collection of poetry “Maa Mujhe Mat Do” is selected by the Hindi Academy of Delhi, this gave me a special recognition. After that, along with writing and reading, confidence was also awakened to speak out and fight caste injustice in society and three more books were published. He was also honored with many prestigious awards while doing careful literary writing in many newspapers and magazines.

Writing included in the University’s curriculum
I recently learned that the first short play written by me “Yeh Kaisi Azadi was staged in different places by Halkra A Theater Group of Haryana. A success that cheered my mind and I knew that my literature was written by the University of Kurukshetra has also been included in the syllabus.

read, grow
I would just like to tell all the girls in society that difficulties come at every step of life and as you are a girl, society will stop you on many levels. If you are vocal from above and you are a Dalit, it will stop you, but we must not lose heart. We must study with confidence, courage and perseverance, keep moving forward, fight difficulties and make a place for ourselves in society.

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