The male body and the female gait. Makeup covered faces. Heavy jewelry. clapping and swaying to the rhythm of the dholak. Car windows slam on the road. Singing congratulations on the wedding and the arrival of the soul. People who give blessings, who are known as Kinnars. After all, who are these people, where do they come from, why is their birth a story and the final farewell a puzzle?
Writer and writer Mahendra Bhishma explains that the fabric of our society is made up of men and women, but a third genre is also part of this society, which civilized society looks down on. Eunuchs also come into this world like ordinary children, but over time, physical changes make them different from all of us. We tell you that Mahendra Bhishma has been associated with the Kinnar community for almost two and a half decades and has also written two books about the Kinnar community called “Kinnar Katha” and “Main Payal”. Mahendra Bhishma currently works as a clerk on the Lucknow bench of the Allahabad High Court.
The story of oppression-or-sitm begins from home
Mahendra Bhishma says that when a transgender child is born in the house, the parents also turn their backs. Hit the boy. In order not to harm respect, the child is delivered to the eunuch community. Some parents want their child to be able to read and write, but society forces him to do so much that he leaves home himself after he gets tired at 15-16. The life of the country’s first eunuch judge, Joita Mandal, and beauty queen Naaz Joshi, is a living example.
incomplete body, full mind
People whose reproductive organs are not fully developed. Male body but chest, gait and female voice. Female body but mustache, no breast growth, absence of uterus, etc. Born eunuchs are women of memory. They feel comfortable with women. They like to dress up as women. There are four branches of the eunuchs: Buchara, Neelima, Mansa and Hansa. Buchara eunuchs are born. Neelima becomes herself, Manasa joins voluntarily. On the other hand, the Hansa are eunuchs formed by physical deficiency or impotence.
Seven Houses, Thousands of Gaddis
Whenever a new eunuch enters a house, a party is held. The Gurus and the heads of the Gaddis of other families arrive. There is a lot of dancing. The Guru gives a new name to the eunuchs who join the gharana. She is given clothes, money, jewelry and some household items. From then on, the parents, the husband and siblings and the head of the family became the guru of the eunuch. Eunuchs apply vermilion on behalf of the guru. They also keep Karva Chauth fasting. The Guru is respected as the head of the family.
Males who are eunuchs of the body, during their inclusion in the gharana, are performed (removal of private parts) which is called Shuddhikaran.
Families are taught language, applause, percussion and dance.
After achieving initiation, the language of the eunuchs, dancing and singing and playing the dholak is trained in the gharana. Congratulatory songs are then sent to the area along with experienced eunuchs. Of the income of the eunuchs, a portion is to be given to the gaddi or gharana.
Who becomes the guru of the eunuchs?
The Guru of Gharana declares five people as his successors on the basis of preference. After the death of the Guru, the greatest of these five becomes the guru of the gharana. For the eunuch community, talking about a guru is a stone’s throw.
Hijras also have some rules
If one gharana has expelled him, the other gharana cannot keep him here. If he likes the hijra of another gharana, then the guru can take it to his gharana only after paying the asking price, and not out of coercion. The oath must also be taken to maintain the confidentiality of the entire secret of the eunuch society.
The strange custom is “fraternity”
According to Mahendra Bhishma, when a eunuch connects the sister relationship with another eunuch, they both breastfeed. It has nothing to do with age. This custom is called “Bahnapa” in the language of the eunuchs.
One day marriage and then widow
Mahendra Bhishma says that I have known many eunuchs who fell in love with ordinary men, but except for one or two, most of them have been deceived in love. People use them and leave. There are few people who support and love.
The Kinnars get married every year according to their religious beliefs. The village of Kunagam in the Villupuram district of Tamil Nadu is where the 18-day eunuch wedding festival begins from the first full moon of the Tamil New Year. Thousands of eunuchs from all over the country gather here. On the 17th day of the festival, the eunuchs marry the idol of their adorable god Aravan. This marriage is only for one night.
On the 18th, a huge effigy of Aravan Dev parades through the city with joy. Finally the effigy is cremated. After that, all the eunuchs pretend to be widows. You break your bracelets. They erase the vermilion and cry. The eunuchs of southern and western India follow this tradition very seriously.
last farewell puzzle
The funeral rites of the eunuchs remain a puzzle. There are different assumptions about his funeral. Writer Mahendra Bhishma says that eunuchs who are related to their family, their last rites are performed by a family member according to their religious customs. Where there is no one, only the eunuchs perform the last rites. He will be buried, given samadhi or cremated, according to the eunuch’s religion.
After the death of the eunuch, cremation is not done but buried. It is not placed while buried, it is made for the grave. Before the burial, five people selected by the Guru narrate their ordeal and pray for the salvation of the soul of the deceased. After that bury.
There are few eunuch cremation sites across the country, including Delhi’s Mehrauli, Ghaziabad. In most places there is no separate provision for these. In this situation, the eunuchs bury the corpse around the place where they live, but now the houses are solid, then the uncles, uncles, brothers close to the eunuchs or their uncles, brothers take the corpses to the crematorium after sunset. . and bury them. There are very few people in the funeral procession, not even all the eunuchs participate. There is an insignificant truth when it comes to hitting slippers and shoes, being beaten up to the crematorium and abusing.
,War on the words “Kinnar” and “Hijra”
Hijras are commonly known by words like Kinnar, Chhakka, Koti, Khojava, Thirunangai, Aravani, Khwaja Sara and Kojjah. Some people associate the tribe living in Kinnaur district in Himachal Pradesh with “Kinnar” or “Kinnaura”. This tribe has also been included in the agenda of the Indian Constitution in 1956. This tribe has been protesting for eunuchs to be called eunuchs. They say calling eunuchs as eunuchs is an insult to the eunuch tribe.
The eunuch population in question
According to the 2011 census, there are about 48 lakhs of transgender people in the country, while in reality this figure is much higher. In 2005, India Today conducted a survey on eunuchs, under which a medical review of 2000 eunuchs was conducted in Delhi. The medical report revealed that as of the year 2000 there were only 3 people who could be called eunuchs. The rest of 1997 were just eunuchs by nature. That is, they were the ones that could be fully recovered after minor surgery. Apart from that, gays and lesbians were also involved in this.
Mahendra Bhishma says this community is full of money, drugs and adultery, so unemployed people, homosexuals, are also undergoing surgery to become women. Expensive injections are given. That is why its population has also increased.