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- Homework, studies, sports… everything is wanted quickly, how will you build the future with this parenting
New Delhi5 hours agoAuthor: Sanjay Sinha
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Why am I in this world, should I leave this world… It is a matter of concern to say this for an innocent. The child’s distress is seen in the viral video on social media. Innocent five to six year olds also face the pressure of studies. They also feel the stress of completing homework on time and performing better in extracurricular activities. With age, this stress takes the form of depression. This is the reason why the suicide trend among teenage girls has also increased in India.
Higher rate of depression among girls
According to the National Crime Records Bureau, 11,396 children committed suicide in 2020. That is, 31 children took their own lives every day. In this also the number of girls was more. While 5,392 boys committed suicide, 6,004 girls committed suicide. NCRB data shows that children are going through psychological trauma.
pressure on children to perform well
Dr Varun S. Mehta, associate professor at the Central Institute of Psychiatry, says children consider school a second home. So, whether it’s classwork or homework, they take it very seriously. Parents may find these things minor, but children are sensitive about it. There is increasing pressure on them to do well in school as well.
Parents expect their children to perform well in the exam. They are evaluated based on grades. This puts children under pressure.
The wish of the parents: the child should excel everywhere
Not only are children under pressure to study, but they are also under stress to do better in extracurricular activities. Although not all parents have enough resources, those who are able want the child to participate and surpass them. Parents want their child to be ahead in everything such as painting, dancing, sports. They keep telling the children over and over again that look, their child enters singing or dancing in this channel. Also got 95 percent marks etc. In this situation, there is pressure on the child.
Kids get tense even without you telling them
Dr. Varun points out that parenting in the new age has created a strange kind of crisis. When parents want my child to be like this or the best, then the pressure on the child is high. There are parents who say that it doesn’t matter how you study, it doesn’t matter. Don’t take the stress But these kids also realize what their parents think about them or parents are stressed about my studies.
A published study titled School Stress in India: Effects on Time and Daily Emotions describes how children are stressed by schoolwork and homework.
Kids get weak doing homework
According to a study in the International Journal of Behavioral Development, schoolwork for children has many side effects. Children who spend more time on homework are emotionally weak. There is some kind of anxiety in them. But parents don’t understand.
More cases of self-harm in girls
Dr. K Prasad, Assistant Professor, Department of Psychiatric Social Work, Central Institute, Ranchi, says emotions are usually the later development of children. They didn’t know how to behave. But watching TV, mobile or social networks have started to react immediately. In our society, boys are able to explain or share their point somehow, but girls are isolated. He hides his feelings. That is why there are more cases of self-harm in girls. When girls are between 11 and 13 years old, they try to hurt themselves even with small things. The theme of parenting is also more visible here.
If Chintu wears less marks, the sky will not explode.
Social media is also becoming a stress tool among children. Information spreads rapidly around the world. There are more negative messages in these.
Assessment of the child on the basis of the dangerous score card
Parenting in our country has been violent, says Vishwambhar Nath Prajapati, assistant professor in the sociology department at Udit Narayan PG College Padrauna in Kushinagar, Uttar Pradesh. There is more mental violence in parenting than physical. From the beginning no attempt has been made to understand the children. Whether children are being socialized or not, there is no attention. Parents should consider their high score in not appreciating children. In a way, parents are removed from practical things. Consider the score more important. Looking at life mechanically.
Parents make children feel that good grades will come, medals will come in sports, only then is it important. Parents tend to forget that a test does not evaluate the child, it is the evaluation of the questions that are asked. Even schools and universities don’t get it. Judging a child based on grades alone is dangerous. Many children do well in written tests but not in objective tests. Parents don’t want to understand this. Parents believe that if the marks are less now, they will not perform well in 10th. If marks are not good in 10th then result will be bad in 12th also. Career will not be possible in the future. By repeatedly expressing this fear, they further weaken children.